Integration; Dismantling, relearning, and embodying 🌹
- Zuleica Vasquez | In Her Divinity® ✨
- Jul 27
- 4 min read
RED FLAGS >> This post will either open your eyes or offend your ego. Both are doing exactly what they need to do 🚩🚩🚩
I have said this for years: there's no point in sitting with the medicine or attending every ceremony you see available if you do not do the real work that comes after what the ceremony or medicine has revealed.
It's an 80/20 rule. 80% is the innerwork, shadow work, trauma work, subconscious work, while the 20% is ceremony. Big things come up when you sit with the medicine, whatever medicine it is that you have chosen to partner with: this can be breathwork, meditation, shamanic medicines, etc. and if you do not know what to do with this energy, it will remain stuck. It will simply come to the forefront and will remain there until you do something with it. Which is why integration is the most important work after such sacred ceremonies.
I spent all of July facilitating Integration Sessions for my ceremony attendees. 97% of the women who attended had never sat in a gathering, ceremony, or especially in a medicine one.
This told me two things... 1. "These women are called to wake TF up," and 2. "Teach them how to hold their selves", because there's only about 1% of the entire population that know how to truly hold space for their selves. Who knows how to feel what they are feeling, not judge it, NOT RUN AWAY from it, and actually be there with their selves. 99% of people are running and will continue to run.
So, how did my integration sessions go?
Incredible.
Not one person said 'Oh yeah, I knew that was going to come up."
Every single one with whom I sat with during integration said they had no idea this was going to come up for them.
But that's what happens.
In life in general, we can set our intentions and go on about life, but sometimes what happens next is a total f*cking surprise.
So what can we do as things come up in life, as they do in ceremony?
You hold yourself just as you have been taught to hold yourself.
If you sit in a ceremony and there's no proper integration space or guidance for the next steps, that's a f*cking red flag!
Early on in my medicine journey, I had a conviction in my heart because the spaces we had held medicine ceremonies were not offering any real integration support.
It almost felt like we just said, "Okay, back into the big world you go."
And as for my mama heart, I could not take it.
It was not aligned with what my soul came here to do.
I would often think to myself, "Okay, now what?"
What do these people do with all that they just experienced in the ceremony?
I knew what to do because back then, I was already an internationally accredited and certified healing facilitator trained in guiding women through their deep trauma work, but what about the people who had no fucking idea what trauma work even was? Then what?
This is where I recognized people needed much more than just a ceremony. There is a whole ass awakening happening to the women who have never done this kind of work.
I recognize it is not my job to handhold but I've made it my job to make sure these beautiful women know how to hold themselves during this sacred time.
You don't need me, you need yourself.
But not everyone knows how to hold their selves.
Don't attend a ceremony if you're not ready to completely change your life.
Don't attend a ceremony if you just want to "experience what it feels like"
When we say it's a beautiful experience, we mean it, but it can get ugly, scary, or intimidating at first. You just need to stop running away from those feelings and hold yourself.
I live my life as if every day is integration because for me, it is.
For me, each day that I learn something new about myself, I practice either letting it go or embodying it. I take it for what it is and grow from it.
There's a dismantling that happens.
A relearning process occurs.
And then there's a sacred practice of embodying.
If you're not ready for that, don't sit in a ceremony with practitioners and facilitators who are here to do that kind of work.
We're not here for you to just experience something.
We're here to help you align with your authentic self. <3
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Side Note:
Phew, I've been wanting to get this off my chest for a bit, but needed to distinguish which was ego and which was my true self speaking. I am always rooting for your growth and evolution. There's no closing your eyes after they've been opened. If you are new to the work and have never practiced holding space for yourself, reach out to someone who has. Reach out to someone who has walked the underworld head-on and knew exactly how to get tf out of it. Reach out to someone who knows how to align with universal law to begin relearning a new way of being in harmony with the universe. Reach out to an expert, whether it be me or not. Just don't keep running from yourself. It's time to meet a deeper version of you.
I love you!
Side, Side Note: If you are ready for this kind of work, reach out as well.
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